You know your house reflects you and somehow you are supposed to understand how it all works together to create the essence of you. Wow. There is so much to you have to understand when you are creating the room of your dreams. Are you frustrated? Do you feel inadequate? Are you overwhelmed?
The heat is on, literally. Not to mention, there is always that good friend or relative who just knows how to do things and even though she loves you very much, there is a condescending way about her when she enters your space. What is a girl to do?
I wish I could tell you there is a magic formula to transform your home into that beautiful Shangri-La you have in your head. There isn’t. Are you doomed to a space that is second rate and unsatisfactory? No, not if you don’t want to be.
I don’t know how you felt about school, but interior design is a lot like those early days. Remember how much fun it was when the teacher introduced you to the wonderful world of finger painting? The excitement of the colors as they were generously scooped onto the gleaming white paper? The rich odor of the paint. All of possibilities in the world of creation were right there at your fingertips. You were ready to create with the purest reds, the richest blues and the brightest yellows. They were vibrant, you could touch them, they literally took on a life of their own. Suddenly you were free to express yourself.
Well, if you are like me, your exhilaration went too far and suddenly the all colors blended and the result was a sickly purple and there was no turning back. Your room is like that. At first you add a few things, you think, hmmm, maybe that will work, then you add some more and now, you’ve got that purplely mess, only this is your room.
The first step toward creating that home of your dreams is the one that requires the most of from us, everything after step one will be fun, I promise. It is the same thing you have to do every time you set a goal, discipline, discipline, discipline. Clean out the clutter.
Stop, look around and start with letting go of those things that are not working for you. Those pieces that someone gave you, it has sentimental value but it isn’t you. Say a prayer in thanksgiving for the beautiful relationship that blessed you with the piece and give it away, spread the love. There are many giving opportunities all around you. Free yourself, break the bonds of sentimentality and go for what you love. You must be fearless and quick. Do not stop to think about this, move with abandon. You are setting yourself free.
Now, let your room breathe. Wash the windows, vacuum, sweep and dust. Now take another look, what do you see? If you were bold and courageous, you should see the birth of a new space. This time it is the one you can call your own. Congratulations! You are the proud owner of a new wonderful beginning room!